First of all, as harsh as it may sound, the Lord DOES NOT want you to marry a Muslim. We read in 2 Corinthians 6:14-16, “BE YE NOT UNEQUALLY YOKED TOGETHER WITH UNBELIEVERS: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel? And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.”

There are many kinds of ‘yokes’ that a believer might enter into…such as a business partnership, or joining a club that links you with unbelievers. But, one of the most serious and consequential yokes is that of marriage. The reason that the Lord forbids this yoke is obvious. There is no godly point of agreement. The above verses asked, “What fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness.” “What concord (agreement) hath Christ with Belial (Satan)?” There is no ground for true godly fellowship between a believer and an unbeliever. Amos 3:3 asks a vital question, “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” When two people do not agree on which direction to take, how can they possibly walk together? One will want to go one way, while the other will want to go another way.

To marry this man and then “change religion by appearance” is to deny the truth that you have been called to. To act like a Muslim, yet secretly believe in Jesus is to deny Him before others. Let’s read the words of the Lord in Matthew 10:33, “But whosoever shall deny me before men, him will I also deny before my Father which is in heaven.” To deny the Lord for your boyfriend/husband’s sake is to place a greater value on him than on heavenly things, and it shows that you prefer the love of this man more than the approval of God. This is not the action of a true believer!

I know that your heart must be greatly involved with this man. I know to walk away from him and end this relationship will break your heart. However, according to the Bible, there is no other way that would honor the Lord…unless, of course your boyfriend accepts Christ as his savior and you two can live together as a Christian couple. Let’s consider the words of the Lord in Luke 4:18, “The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he hath anointed me to preach the gospel to the poor; HE HATH SENT ME TO HEAL THE BROKENHEARTED, to preach deliverance to the captives, and recovering of sight to the blind, to set at liberty them that are bruised…” Although your heart may break from ending this relationship, the Lord will heal your broken heart. Trust in Him to minister to your needs. Pray and ask Him to give you the strength to do what must be done to honor, please, and obey your savior.

Before closing, I want to caution you about one more thing. To marry someone hoping that you can lead him to Christ is still a wrong and unscriptural thing to do. I told my children when they were growing up that marriage is not an evangelistic tool. You don’t marry someone hoping they will accept the Lord someday. Most times, the results are disastrous and heartbreaking. I will be praying for you as you prayerfully consider this counsel. (334.2)