Before we seek to answer this question, I would refer the reader to a previous question dealing with the subject of a transgender. To read that article, you can click on this link: http://answersfromthebook.net/can-someone-who-is-transgender-enter-into-heaven-if-not-why-did-god-create-them/.  In our answer to that question we brought out that God is the one who determines one’s sexual gender, for Genesis 1:27 states, “So God created man in His own image, in the image of God created He him; MALE and FEMALE created He them.” We also saw from Psalm 139:13-16 that God has formed each baby in the womb and that He makes no mistakes when it comes to our gender; it is His “design and this leaves no room for mistakes.” The transgender believes that God has made a mistake, for they believe that they were given the wrong body. Thus, they either “dress like the opposite sex or actually change their sex through hormone therapy and/or surgery.”

In light of these facts, should a true believer in Jesus Christ date a transgender? Put another way, should a believer date an unbeliever? I am calling them unbelievers for Scripture says this of them in 1st Corinthians 6:9: “Do ye not know that unrighteous persons shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not err: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor THOSE WHO MAKE WOMEN OF THEMSELVES, nor who abuse themselves with men” (DARBY). The capitalized words refer to the transgender and God clearly calls them an “unrighteous person” who will “not inherit the kingdom of God.” In 2nd Corinthians 6:14 God commands us, “Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has unrighteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness” (NKJV)?  So, a true believer should NOT date a transgender (i.e. an unbeliever), for dating could lead to the yoke of marriage. This yoke would be “unequal” in that the believer cannot have any true fellowship with an unbeliever. The believer will want to walk in fellowship with the Lord according to His Word, and the unbeliever will want to walk in their own ways based on feelings and emotions. The prophet Amos posed this rhetorical question in Amos 3:3: “Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?”

Before we close, we should present another possible scenario. If a transgender comes to see their sin of rebelling against God’s creation of them and then puts their trust in the Lord Jesus Christ for salvation, they will be forgiven and are a new creation in God’s sight. In the passage quoted above from 1st Corinthians 6, the apostle Paul went on to say in verse 11: “And such WERE SOME OF YOU. But you were washed, but you were sanctified, but you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus and by the Spirit of our God.” I read an article recently where a man named Walt Heyer thought he should have been born with a female body so he underwent a sex change through surgery. He later became a believer in Jesus Christ and realized that God had made no mistake when He created him so he had another surgery to return to his original gender. If you are considering dating a person like Walt, who was once a transgender but has come to faith in Christ (resulting in their return to the way God created them), you would have every right, according to Scripture, to date that person.  (217.1)  (DO)