Although you say that this incident will ‘forever be a wall’, you also ask how to make it right.  Perhaps you do realize that this DOES NOT have to forever be a wall between you and your daughter, and you are willing to do what it takes to make it right.  I am thankful for that. 

Let’s first consider you losing your temper.  God’s Word has lots to say about that.  James 1:19-20 says, “Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, SLOW TO WRATH: For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God.”  In dependence upon the Lord, we do have the ability to control our tempers.  First of all, we should patiently listen to others and then be slow in our responses.  Some say we should count to ten before we respond.  Sometimes we may have to count to 50 or more before we respond!  The pause in our response allows us time to consider what we’ve heard and make sure we weigh our words before we say them.  AND, it allows us time to pray and ask the Lord to help us from becoming angry. 

Once we have become angry and responded accordingly, what do we do next?  We confess our sin to the Lord.  1 John 1:9, “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”  At this point, the Lord has forgiven you.  Now you need to go a step further.  You should confess your sin to the one you sinned against, in this case your daughter.  “Confess your trespasses to one another…”  (James 5:16) (NKJV).  Make sure your daughter realizes how much you love her and how much you are sorry for what you have done.  Regardless of what her actions might have been, you need to confess to the Lord and to her what you have done in losing your temper.

Matthew 5:23-24 teaches us, “Therefore if thou bring thy gift to the altar, and there rememberest that thy brother hath ought against thee; Leave there thy gift before the altar, and go thy way; first BE RECONCILED to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift.”  This shows us how that unconfessed sin can hinder our worship of the Lord.  If you realize you have offended someone, your first priority should be to be reconciled with that person.  This matter needs to be resolved.  The longer you wait, the harder it becomes.

What if your daughter does not forgive you right away?  Be patient.  Sometimes it takes a while.  Proverbs 18:19 says, “A brother offended is harder to be won than a strong city…”  It may take several instances of talking with your daughter, showing contriteness and a desire to be reunited. 

It is obvious that you love your daughter and want to make it right.  As I was writing this, I paused and prayed for you and your daughter that you might resolve this matter.  If you and your daughter are both saved, then you both have the love of God within you according to Romans 5:5.  Show it to each other.  The Lord wants you to be reconciled, so ask Him for the guidance, strength, and patience you need to make this happen.  Let me remind you of the words of 1 Corinthians 13:4, “Love suffers long and is kind…”  Be patient.  Be kind.  Your daughter will respond in time and this ‘wall’ between you will come tumbling down.  (414.6)