First of all, the Lord does want us, as believers, to gather with fellow believers for learning, fellowship, and worship.  We read the exhortation in Hebrews 10:25, “Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching.”  It is the Lord’s desire that we come together often…even as many forsake this valuable time.  The word ‘exhorting’ is often translated as ‘comforting’ in the Bible.  It is when we join together in fellowship according to God’s Word and order, we do comfort one another.  We cannot do that if we do not follow the Lord’s instructions to assemble ourselves together. 

Since the Covid epidemic, many people do not attend church services as they once did.  Many have opted to view a ‘streamed’ service in their homes rather than go to the trouble of attending services in person.  If there is a valid reason for not attending, such as sickness, being incapacitated, or no transportation, etc. then the Lord understands.   However, when we are able to attend, the Lord’s desire is that we do attend, so that we might minister to others and be ministered to ourselves by having a time of in-person fellowship with fellow believers.  To abstain from attending just for convenience’s sake would definitely be “forsaking the assembling of ourselves together.”  This displeases the Lord and we should make every effort to attend if there is no valid reason we should not.

What about the clothes we wear, especially (as per your question) the women?  Is it okay for the women to wear mini-skirts or trousers to the church services?  I want to emphasize that attendance is of the greater importance and we should be tolerant of others.  Surely, if a visitor came and she was wearing a short dress, all should still be warm and welcoming to that person.  Perhaps she believes her attire is fine.  Perhaps that is all she has to wear.  Perhaps she is not a believer and is simply looking for Christian love.  What a wonderful opportunity to welcome that person in and share the truth of God’s Word.

For those who know the Lord and desire to follow His Word, we read in 1 Timothy 2:9-10, “In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in MODEST APPAREL, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; But (which becometh women professing godliness) with good works.”  Modesty is the key here.  Women should not attend services seeking to be noticed.  Her apparel should reflect a godly character and not a worldly desire.  The Greek word for shamefacedness is the same as translated as ‘reverence’ in Hebrews 12:28.  The Greek word for sobriety is ’sōphrosýnē’ and means soundness of mind, or self-control.  These words show us the Lord expects the ladies to dress modestly, reverently, and with self-control and decency.

1 Peter 3:3-4 speaks of women’s adornment.  That says, “Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.”  In all realms of life, this shows the idea that a Christian woman’s true beauty comes from her character and faith, not from fashion or accessories. This does not mean women cannot dress nicely, but their dress should confirm that their hearts and character reflect Christ above all.  Proverbs 31:25 affirms this truth by stating, “Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.” 

God’s Word offers clear principles for how a Christian woman should dress, focusing on modesty, dignity, and inner beauty rather than outward luxury. Clothing is not just about fashion, it is an indication of the woman’s heart, values, and faith in Christ.  A Christian woman’s goal should be to glorify God in all aspects of her life, including the way she dresses. The faithful sister can reflect her faith and inspire others as a child of God.  (CC)  (707.6)