Can a marriage be restored after 10 years separation? The husband is living with his girlfriend and the wife is now walking in Christ. I am praying so diligently and with courage God will restore my family back. I HAVE HOPE. I tried looking for stories of marriages in the bible.

- AFTB

Posted on Sep 28, 2013

Let’s read Mark 10:27, “And Jesus looking upon them saith, With men it is impossible, but not with God: for with God all things are possible.” What seems impossible to man is no problem for the Lord.

I am thankful that the wife is now walking in Christ. It’s when we walk with the Lord in the truth of His Word that He blesses us greatly. The Apostle Paul wrote in 1 Thessalonians 2:11-12, “As ye know how we exhorted and comforted and charged every one of you, as a father doth his children, That ye would walk worthy of God, who hath called you unto his kingdom and glory.” As believers on the Lord Jesus Christ, our lives should exemplify the Lord. Our walk, or our lifestyle, should be worthy of the Lord that saved us. The Lord desires to bless us, and He will bless us when we seek to live for Him. 1 Corinthians 2:9 tells us that, “…Eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither have entered into the heart of man, the things which God hath prepared for them that love him.” King David wrote in Psalms 37:4-5, “Delight thyself also in the LORD; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. Commit thy way unto the LORD; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass.” When our desire is to honor the Lord, he will give us the desires of our heart.

With that said, I can’t promise you that this marriage will be healed. It sounds like the husband has moved on and is in a long relationship with his girlfriend. Of course, living together is adultery and the Lord condemns this behavior.

For any marriage to survive and thrive, both husband and wife must commit their lives to the Lord. We have this critical question in Amos 3:3, “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” Since the wife is now walking with the Lord, her first concern towards her husband should be his spiritual needs. Is he a believer on the Lord Jesus Christ? Is he a believer that is far away from the Lord? I suggest that you encourage the wife to seek to minister to his spiritual needs, whatever they are. If the relationship is civil enough, perhaps she can ask her husband if he has trusted the Lord Jesus Christ as his savior. If not, she should share with him the good news of salvation through faith in the Lord Jesus. Even if they got back together, if he has no heart for the Lord, this marriage will still not work.

I encourage you to continue to pray for the Lord’s will for this marriage. Since the husband has moved on with another woman, it may be that he has no interest in going back with his wife after all these years. You should also pray that if these two do not go back together, that the Lord would give the wife the peace she needs to continue on with her life. While people often leave and forsake us, we have the promise of God in Hebrews 13:5 where the Lord says, “I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.”