You have asked several very serious questions. I do detect (in your questions) that you “doubt God’s love and His care for those He has created.” Let me say upfront that God’s very nature is LOVE. We read this in 1st John 4:7, “Beloved, let us love one another, for LOVE IS OF GOD; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. He who does not love does not know God, for GOD IS LOVE.” The “love” spoken of here is the Greek word AGAPE and it is an “unconditional love.” Mr. W. E. Vines says this of the word AGAPE: “It expresses the deep and constant love and interest of a perfect Being towards entirely unworthy objects, producing and fostering a reverential love in them towards the Giver, and a practical love towards those who are partakers of the same, and a desire to help others to seek the Giver.”

God’s LOVE is expressed to ALL MEN in John 3:16, “For God SO LOVED THE WORLD, that He gave His only begotten Son, what whoever believes in Him should not perish but have eternal life.” ALL MEN were born in sin (Psalm 51:3), practice sin (Romans 3:23), and are thus “dead in trespasses and sin” (Ephesians 2:1). They need LIFE and God proved His infinite love for all men by sending His Son to the Cross to take man’s place in death and judgment so they could be given eternal life. The moment a sinner BELIEVES the good news of Jesus Christ they are “born of God” and they have “a reverential love in them towards the Giver” and “a practical love towards those who are partakers of the same.” We see this truth in 1st John 4:17 and 1st John 3:14, “We love Him because He first loved us…We know we have passed from death to life, because we love the brethren.”

God’s LOVE is expressed in another way to ALL HIS CHILDREN (those who have been born of God) in 1st John 3:1, “Behold WHAT MANNER OF LOVE the Father has bestowed on us, that we should becalled the children of God.” We saw in John 3:16 that God “LOVED the WORLD” while they were sinners. Here we are taught that the FATHER “LOVES His CHILDREN.” This expression of His love can only be known and appreciated by those who have trusted in His Son for salvation, for only then can one call God their Father and realize the love He has for His children. H. A. Ironside put it this way: “If you are out of Christ, be assured of this: the love of God goes out to you, and He has commended His love toward you in the while you were yet a sinner Christ died for you. But you know there is SOMETHING SWEETER, there is something even MORE PRECIOUS than that, but it is not for you until you trust Christ, but if you have already trusted in Him, then you can enter into the Father’s love.”

You then ask, “Why does God help some people in need and not others? Does God not care?” If we truly believe what we have already seen about God’s love going out to all men by sending His Son to the cross, we would not question God’s love and care for all men. At the cross God has MET MAN’S GREATEST NEED by providing a Savior for all men so they can have eternal life and enter His family by simply “believing on the Lord Jesus Christ” (Acts 16:31). If one will believe the gospel and then “look to Him in faith to meet their LESSER NEEDS,” He will surely meet those needs. In Matthew 6:25-32 we see this truth, for we are told not to “worry about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink; nor about your body, what you will put on”.… “For your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things” (verses 25 & 32). Again, one must first experience God’s love that was expressed at the cross in order to truly experience, by faith, His love expressed by meeting our daily needs of food, clothing, and shelter. Having said that, God still blesses mankind by meeting many of their needs despite their rejection of Christ. We read in Matthew 5:45, “For He makes His sun rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the just and the unjust.” Sadly, the sinner does not acknowledge and thank God as “the Giver” who is meeting their needs and yet they are often quick to blame God for their suffering.

I often hear the question (similar to your question), “Why does God allow an innocent baby to suffer and die?” I do not pretend to know the full answer to that question, but I do trust that God has a purpose (or many purposes) in allowing this to happen. We learn in 1st Corinthians 10:13, “No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man.” All men (including women, children, and babies) suffer trials because of SIN that entered the world through Adam in the Garden of Eden (Romans 5:12). When a baby or child suffers God can use that trial to draw the parents to Christ for salvation, or, if they are saved, they can be drawn closer to their heavenly Father (Hebrews 12:5-11). If the baby dies the death of Christ assures them a place in heaven where they will “see the face of My Father which is in heaven” (Matthew 10-14). Be assured of this, God “does care” and if saved we are told to be “casting all your care upon Him, for He CARES FOR YOU” (1st Peter 5:7).  (DO)  (598.5)