God restored my marriage and brought my husband back. We are building our marriage on God’s Word and plan and most areas of our marriage are stronger and better than ever, but because of his infidelities our physical relationship seems to be very broken. I want to pray for God to restore my husband’s physical desires for me and for God to heal our physical relationship, but my husband does not think praying for “sexual” healing is appropriate? I want to respect his headship, but I feel that God designed that part of our marriage too and God does want us to be restored in all ways. Can you give me some scriptures to read to help me?
I am so thankful that you and your husband have been able to reconcile your marriage and are now rebuilding your marriage based on His Word and His plan. May He continue to bless and guide you both in your marriage.
It is sad that because of his experiences, your husband lacks in his sexual desire for you. Let me be emphatically clear…it is MOST APPRORIATE to pray about this. The Lord exhorts us in 1 Peter 5:7, “Casting ALL YOUR CARE upon him; for he careth for you.” The Lord wants you to pray to Him about ALL ISSUES in your life and marriage. If your husband is having intimacy problems, then the Lord certainly already knows about it and desires that your husband cast this care upon Him. He cares for you, and He cares for your husband. He wants you both to have a good, healthy, God honoring marriage. Intimacy is an important part in the normal marriage and the Lord does not want this to be a hindrance in your successful relationship. By all means…pray about this together and individually.
Here are a few more verses to encourage you and your husband to pray about this:
- Philippians 4:6, “Be careful for nothing; but in EVERYTHING by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.”
- Ephesians 6:18, “Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints.”
- Romans 8:26-27, “Likewise the Spirit also helpeth our infirmities: for we know not what we should pray for as we ought: but the Spirit itself maketh intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered. And he that searcheth the hearts knoweth what is the mind of the Spirit, because he maketh intercession for the saints according to the will of God.”
- James 5:16, “Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.”
I pray these verses (and there are many more) will help convince you and your husband to pray about your situation. A matter not prayed for is a matter that has not been given over to the Lord. Give this over to the Lord and watch Him work on your behalf! (CC) (525.4)