How do you pursue a relationship with a specific person without making him/her an idol? How can I date in a healthy way?
I’m thrilled to get this kind of question. I assume this is from a young person who is interested in dating, but also desires to honor the Lord. This is so commendable. It is so easy to be in a relationship with someone and put that person above everyone else, even the Lord. Let’s look at a couple of scriptures that might help you keep these things in perspective. James 1:17 tells us that, “Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning.” If you believe that the person you are dating is truly from the Lord, then you should give thanks to the Lord for that person. Realize that he or she is a gift, and be thankful to the giver of that gift. Although there should be much appreciation for the gift, the giver of the gift should receive that greater love and appreciation. How good it would be to thank the Lord each day for the gift of companionship that he has given you.
The Lord gives a solemn warning about acknowledging Him and keeping things in their proper perspective in Romans, chapter one. In verse 16, He speaks of those who, “worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. Amen.” Although this warning was aimed at infidels, or unbelievers, it is far too easy for believers to allow people or things to replace the Lord as the one that we worship and serve.
So, to have a healthy relationship with one another and honor the Lord in that relationship, honor Him for the one He has given you. Pray together with your partner. Read God’s Word together. Worship and serve the Lord together. Amos 3:3 asks this important question, “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” Make sure that you and your partner are both following the truth of God’s Word, that you are both seeking His guidance, and you both desire to honor Him with your lives. If you are in agreement in these things, you can truly walk together and have a proper and healthy relationship.