God hates divorce!  He makes that perfectly clear in Malachi 2:16, ““For I hate divorce,” says the Lord…” (NASB).  Let’s hear the Word of the Lord as He addresses an unfaithful husband in Malachi 2:13-15, “And this have ye done again, covering the altar of the LORD with tears, with weeping, and with crying out, insomuch that he regardeth not the offering any more, or receiveth it with good will at your hand. Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet is she thy companion, and the wife of thy covenant. And did not he make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.” 

How it grieves the heart of the Lord when a man ‘deals treacherously against the wife of your youth.’ To ‘deal treacherously’ means to offend by being unfaithful, thus resulting in divorce.  Of course, this would be the same to a woman who is unfaithful to her husband. 

Now, let’s read the words of the Lord in Matthew 19:9, “And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.”  This shows the Lord does allow for divorce in the case of fornication.  He certainly hates divorce, but if one is unfaithful to their marital partner, the Lord does allow it in such cases.  Notice that the Lord does not DEMAND divorce here, but He ALLOWS it.  There have been countless cases where a marriage has survived unfaithfulness by one of the partners, so every effort should be made to mend a marriage where this has happened.

However, in your case, you divorced an unfaithful husband.  The scripture allows for that, so it seems you have been innocent of wrongdoing and the Lord does not forbid you to divorce and He does not forbid you to remarry, as long as you marry “only in the Lord.” (1 Corinthians 7:39). 

Realizing this, your divorce should not prevent you from participating in the Lord’s Supper or prohibit you from being part of a Christian assembly.  I encourage you to sit down with an elder or church leader and explain your history so that there will be a good understanding of what happened to you.  I cannot imagine there would be any hesitancy to receiving you into full fellowship with “like minded” believers if they know your background.  (CC)  (561.4)