First of all, I am very sorry for your loss.  It is so hard to lose a loved one and I believe that true comfort comes from the Lord.  2 Corinthians 1:3 tells us that God is, “the Father of mercies, and the God of all comfort.”  We know that “the LORD looketh on the heart.” (1 Samuel 16:7).  So, it is logical that the one who looks upon the heart, knows what the heart needs to be comforted and healed.  I am thankful that you are looking to the Lord to find this comfort.  Many people look in wrong places for comfort and wind up hurting more. 

As you deal with your own grief, I’m sure your son is looking to you for help as he grieves the passing of his father.  I trust that you will be able to offer him comfort from the scriptures after we consider a few verses to help you.

The Lord Jesus said in Luke 4:18-19, “The Spirit of the Lord is upon me, because he hath anointed me to preach the gospel to the poor; he hath sent me to heal the brokenhearted, to preach deliverance to the captives, and recovering of sight to the blind, to set at liberty them that are bruised, To preach the acceptable year of the Lord.”  One of the reasons the Lord Jesus came to the earth was to heal those who have had their hearts broken by grief.  The Lord certainly knows grief.  He was even called a “man of sorrows” in Isaiah 53:3. These things certainly equip Him to help with your grief and sorrows. 

Let’s consider the words of the Lord in Matthew 11:28-30, “Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”  Surely you are ‘heavy laden’ with grief so this call of the Lord Jesus is for you.  He is the One who can give you rest for your soul.  You say that you believe in God, and that is wonderful, but I hope that you have also received His Son, the Lord Jesus Christ as your savior.  If you have not, I plead with you to consider your need of salvation and go to Him in faith and receive all the benefits of being a child of God.  If you do know Christ as your savior, I still encourage you to go to Him to receive needed peace.  Hebrews 4:16 instructs us, “Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need.”  Talk to the Lord.  Tell Him all about your grief and sorrow.  There, at His feet, you will “obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need.” 

Hebrews 4:15 tells us, “For we have not an high priest which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in all points tempted like as we are, yet without sin.”  For those who believe in Him, we have Christ as your high priest, and he is “touched with the feelings of our infirmities.”  That simply means that He understands all the you are going through, and He can minister to your broken heart by giving you His mercy, grace, peace, comfort, strength, etc.  He has suffered more than anyone will ever suffer, and He can surely empathize with you and minister to you in your sufferings. 

All the peace you need is found in a close relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ.  Draw near to Him.  Cast all your cares at His feet because He truly cares for you.  (read 1 Peter 5:7).  Will your grief end immediately?  I do not think so because grief is a process that you go through to get from sorrow to peace.  He will ease your pain as you go through your grief.  He will cause your grief to end quicker as you walk with Him in your life. 

As to your husband, was he a believer on the Lord Jesus Christ?  If so, you can rejoice knowing that he is in the presence of his savior and is happier than he could have ever been here on earth.  2 Corinthians 5:8, “We are confident, I say, and willing rather to be absent from the body, and to be present with the Lord.”  Psalm 16:11, “Thou wilt shew me the path of life: in thy presence is fulness of joy; at thy right hand there are pleasures for evermore.”  If you are a believer and your husband was a believer, then you can rejoice knowing that you will see him again someday. 

I pray that you are able to help your son with his grief.  I often say that if you want to be helped, then be a helper.  Talk to your son about the things you have read here.  Tell him about the forgiveness, peace, and comfort that comes from knowing Christ as your savior.  I will be praying that the Lord will meet all your needs…spiritual and emotional.  (418.4)