This question is a little harder to answer than you think it might be.  No one likes being abused.  We don’t like being treated as if we are an ENEMY.  We don’t enjoy it when we are treated as if we are HATED.  We don’t like being CURSED at, or disrespected.  Like I said, no one does.  There have been people in my own life who I thought treated me unfairly, and my first thought was to just stay away from them.  I did not want to be around them.  They made me feel bad, they made me angry, and I felt much better when I was not around them.

The original question was much longer, with lots more detail.  I chose my words carefully in the above statement because it seems to fit the original question.  Notice I have put three words in capital letters…ENEMY, HATED, and CURSED.  I did that because scripture addresses these three things with the proper attitudes and actions we should have.

In Matthew 5:44, we have the words of the Lord Jesus Christ Himself, “But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you.  LOVE, BLESS, DO GOOD, and PRAY.  Is this easy to do?  No, it’s not easy at all.  However, as believers on the Lord Jesus, we do not have to rely on our own power or ability.  Philippians 4:13 gives us great assurance that, “I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.”  You CAN love your enemy.  You CAN bless them that curse you.  You CAN do good to them that hate you.  You CAN pray for those who use and persecute you.  Through Christ, you CAN do these things.  We can also be assured that the Lord will never tell us to do something that is impossible for us to do.  “Through Christ.”  He is our great source of strength to show His love to all people, even, and especially, to those who mistreat us.

Through Christ, we can look beyond our own frustration and discomfort and reach out to the offenders and show them the love of Christ.  If we choose to just stay away from them, we might be less stressed, but we have missed the opportunity to show them the love of our savior.  Christ has left us the perfect example of how to behave in such situations.  Let’s look at the behavior of our savior in 1 Peter 2:22-24, “Who did no sin, neither was guile found in his mouth: Who, when he was reviled, reviled not again; when he suffered, he threatened not; but committed himself to him that judgeth righteously: Who his own self bare our sins in his own body on the tree, that we, being dead to sins, should live unto righteousness: by whose stripes ye were healed.”  The Lord Jesus certainly had the power to inflict great vengeance upon those who mistreated Him.  He did not though.  He ‘committed himself’ or gave His cause over to the One who will one day judge in righteousness.  In His life on earth, the Lord pronounced some dreadful woes and criticisms upon the hypocrites and unrepentant sinners of His day.  Yet, when it came to personal suffering that He received at the hands of men, He never uttered one aggravated or threatening word.  Rather, He loved them.  Consider His cry from the cross in Luke 23:34, “And Jesus said, Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.”

I realize this answer goes far beyond the answer.  The enquirer did not indicate that he ever reacted in a violent of vengeful manner.  But, we absolutely need to exhibit the love of Christ before others, and especially before those who treat us unfairly and disrespectfully.  We are told to LOVE them in spite of their behavior towards us, even as Christ loved us in spite of our behavior towards Him.  1 Peter 4:8 says, “…charity (love) shall cover the multitude of sins.”  . This means that kind feelings towards others makes us more tolerant in respect to their faults and failings. (207.5)