Any local church that would expect the things mentioned above and then tell something to leave for not doing them, does NOT understand what the church really is and how the gifts of the church are to be used.

What is the church? Jesus said in Matthew 16:18, “Upon this rock I will build my church.” We learn here that the church wasn’t yet in existence. Jesus then died, rose again, and told the disciples to “wait for the Promise of the Father, ‘which,’ He said, ‘you have heard from Me; for John truly baptized with water, but you shall be baptized with the Holy Spirit not many days from now’” (Acts 1:4-5). In Acts chapter 2 we have the “birthday of the church,” for on the Day of Pentecost the Holy Spirit came down and every believer was “filled with the Holy Spirit and began to speak with other tongues, as the Spirit gave them utterance” (verses 1-4). On that occasion, the Spirit “baptized them into the body of Christ” and the church was born! How do we know that? Because we read in 1^st Corinthians 12:13, “For by one Spirit we were all baptized into one body.” What this simply means is that on the Day of Pentecost the Holy Spirit took INDIVIDUAL believers and He formed them into a COLLECTIVE body, called the church. From that point on “the Lord added to the church daily those who were being saved” (Acts 2:47). The moment a sinner believes the gospel he/she is saved (Acts 16:31) and “added to the church.” A local church must recognize the truth that every true believer IS in the body of Christ. They don’t “join a church,” they are “part of the only church that Scripture speaks of, the body of Christ.” They can’t be told to “leave the church” for every member of the body of Christ will be part of the church forever. Jesus went on in Matthew 16:18 to say, “And the gates of Hades shall not prevail against it,” which means that all opposition to the church will meet with defeat. Even death itself will be defeated for even though believers will die, the church will one day be resurrected from the dead and translated to heaven when Christ returns to take the church home to heaven (see John 14:1-3; 1^st Corinthians 15:20-23, 35-55 and 1^st Thessalonians 4:13-18).

In fairness, Scripture does talk about putting a member of the body of Christ under church discipline if they sin. In the case of unconfessed sin, they should be “put out of fellowship” (please read 1^st Corinthians chapter 5). But though they may be “out of fellowship in a local church” they are still “part of the body of Christ” and will be raptured to glory when Christ returns.

As far as the things mentioned in your question which a church may expect and demand from believers in the local church, they fail to see that “speaking in tongues” and engaging in “street evangelism” are GIFTS that some may have (though I personally believe the “gift of tongues has ceased…. see 1^st Corinthians 13:8); but others don’t have. I would encourage you to read and meditate on 1^st Corinthians chapter 12 where the subject of “spiritual gifts” is spoken of at length. We learn there that there are “diversities of gifts” (verse 4) that are given “for the profit of all” (verse 7); each believer is given a gift that differs from another believer (verses 8-11 and 27-31). This means that no local church should expect every believer to have the same gifts. A brother may be given the gift of EVANGELISM (Ephesians 4:11) but others may not have it, so one can’t expect those without this gift to engage in street evangelism. In fact, even those who do have that gift may not be called to exercise it in that way. We learn in 1^st Corinthians 12:5 that “there are differences of ministries, but the same Lord,” which means that the Lord will direct us in the “way we should exercise our gift according to His own will.” One evangelist may be led to engage especially in “one-on-one evangelism;” another in preaching to a gathering at a Bible conference; and another may be led to preach on a street corner to all who will listen to him. The point is “no church can dictate how one should serve the Lord”; it is the Lord who must lead the one He has gifted into the particular “sphere of service He has for them to labor in.” The same goes for “participating in discipleship programs”; one must be called by the Lord to engage in this type of work. It is NOT the local church who expects this, and it is certainly not the church’s right to say “this church isn’t for you if you’re not going to do the things we expect from you.” (DO)  (549.3)