It sounds like you are, as the saying goes, “between a rock and a hard place,” but without knowing some of the details I can only give you some general principles from the Word of God to guide you. If you were an adult (over 18) I might suggest “moving out” and finding your own place; that is, if you are able to support yourself financially. But I’m going to assume you’re still “under age” since you say that you “now have to live with your aunt.” This conveys the idea that you still need adult supervision and that your Aunt is currently your “guardian.”

The first thing I would impress upon you is that you should always “honor your father,” whether you live with him or not. In Ephesians 6:1-3 we are told, “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. ‘HONOR YOUR FATHER and mother,’ which is the first commandment with promise: ‘that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth.’” The word “honor” is the Greek word TIMAO and it means to “value” someone. You may be thinking, “I told you my father is hard to live with, so how can I possibly honor/value him when he isn’t living an honorable life?” In short, you are to honor him because God honors him! In 1st Peter 2:17 God tells to “HONOR all people” and this must mean that God honors them. Perhaps you are now thinking, “How can God honor people that may be living a DISHONORABLE life such as alcoholics, prostitutes, drug dealers, etc?” My answer would be, “God may not honor their BEHAVIOR but He still honors them because HE CREATED THEM.” In Genesis 1:26-27 we read, “Then God said, ‘Let us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness.” Because all men are created in God’s image and likeness He places a VALUE on every person! Another verse that speaks of the value God places on each human being is Mark 8:36 which says, “For what will it profit a man if he gains that whole world, and loses his own soul?” If we believe this truth from God’s Word we will want to “HONOR all men,” not because they are living respectable lives but because they are God’s and He sees them as people created in His image and likeness and because they each have a precious immortal soul that is of more value than the whole world! Now sin has surely “tarnished that image” but God loves and values us in spite of our sin.

Now let’s go back to Ephesians 6:1 which reads, “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.” We just saw that you are to honor your father because he is a person made in the image and likeness of God, but this verse adds the thought that God has given your father AUTHORITY over you and you are to obey him. We are taught in Romans 13:1: “Let every soul be subject to the governing AUTHORITIES. For there is no AUTHORITY except from God, and the AUTHORITIES that exist are appointed by God.” This verse may be speaking specifically about government officials (the President of the U. S., the Governor of a State, the Mayor of a city, etc.), but in saying “there is no authority except from God” it would include your father. While you are “under age and living at home” you are “under his authority” and God would have you to “honor that position of authority.” Again, your father may be “hard to live with,” but he has still been “appointed by God” to exercise authority over you. Of course, you are NOT to blindly obey him, for if he were to ask you to commit a sin (to rob a bank, to cheat on a test at school, to forge a check, etc.), you would have to refuse to obey him, but even then it should be done in humility coupled with a willingness to suffer the consequences for disobeying him. If you are a believer in the Lord Jesus Christ you will want to “obey your parents IN THE LORD,” which means you would obey your father knowing that in doing so you are OBEYING THE LORD. If he is telling you to sin you would not obey him for then he is asking to do something contrary TO THE LORD’S WILL.

In closing, if you choose to stay with your Aunt then SHE IS THE AUTHORITY OVER YOU and the same principle would hold true (in light of Romans 13:1). You say she has “her ups and downs,” which I assume means she too isn’t the easiest person to live with. But I’ve lived long enough to know, firsthand, that none of us are perfect (see Romans 3:23) and there are times when we all fail and aren’t “easy to live with.” This, dear friend, would include YOU! So I would encourage you to not be so hard on either your father or your aunt. Again, if you are a believer in Jesus Christ (as your Lord and Savior), you should want to please Him, and He has given you all the resources you need to live a life for His HONOR and GLORY. Here are some scriptures you can study that speak of these Divine Resources:

1) The Divine Nature…2nd Peter 1:2-4

2) The Holy Spirit…Galatians 5:16-23

3) The Word of God…Acts 20:32; 1st Peter 2:2; Psalm 119:11; John 17:14-17

4) The Throne of Grace…Hebrews 4:14-16

5) The Fellowship of Believers…Hebrews 10:24-25

6) Christ in the Glory (as an OBJECT FOR YOUR HEART)…Colossians 3:1-2; 2nd Corinthians 3:18  (426.1)  (DO)